Shavonne

Relax Time

Posted on November 12th, 2007 by Shavonne.
Categories: Stream of Conscience, Sisterlocks.

I’ve just finished my paper and now it’s time for me to relax. I don’t have much time to blog. I doubt I’ll be doing much blogging in the next year.

I noticed a lot of bloggers are making their blogs private. Why?! I suppose it won’t be that bad since I don’t have much time to surf the net leisurely.

I get a two-week break during my studies next month and I can’t wait. I have a lot of things I need to do. I plan to write an essay about motherhood from a single and child-less-by-choice perspective. I’ve got an end of year video project I plan to produce commemorating 2007.

Work. I’ve settled into my civilian job. It feels like I never left. I can barely remember Afghanistan. If it weren’t for the few pictures I took, I would totally forget the experience.

To date, I have yet to purchase music from iTunes though I frequent the store to listen to the song samples. I definitely plan to get Timbaland’s new CD. I love the song ‘Apologize.’ Believe it or not there are Hip/Hop songs I would like to get. Fabolous has a song I like as well as Akon (Mama Africa) and Kanye West (Stronger). I’ve had my eye on Jon B’s most recent album and India Arie is on my list as well. I think these will be my Christmas/Birthday presents for this year.

I almost bought a condo. Almost-as in once I saw how much the monthly payment would be I chickened out. LOL. The only good thing I got out of the experience is I know what my Fica score is. I’m very pleased.

I haven’t seen any new movies lately. I wanted to see the new Denzel Washington movie but I don’t care for the smell of popcorn and my attention span has gotten shorter for some reason so I doubt I’d watch the whole movie anyway. Besides, I haven’t been to the movies in over a year. My last movie going experience was terrible. Don’t want to go into details but to make a long story short, people need to teach their children manners.

I emailed my dad and asked him what he though of Dread locks? It wasn’t a good response. He basically said they look nasty and unkept. He also commented that employers wouldn’t hire someone with locks because the hairstyle is associated with potheads. (Don’t employers require drug tests nowadays?) What’s wrong with black people? Why is there such hostility toward our natural hair texture?

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Stream of Conscience

Posted on August 13th, 2007 by Shavonne.
Categories: Stream of Conscience.

I’ve been thinking about the purpose of my blog. First and foremost, this blog is about me which is why I named it after myself. Second, I want it to be “ism”-free meaning, I won’t spend much time specifically talking about racism or sexism because there are plenty of black bloggers out there and they’re doing a great job of it. So unless there is an incident involving me, the “-isms” won’t get much mention here. I just believe there is more to life than the -isms and I want people to know that I have other interests like photography, writing, traveling, etc.

I went shopping for another domain address. Specifically the domain shavonne.tv. It’s taken and I believe it’s taken by the same people who own shavonne.com. Go figure. I was really bummed out about this since I plan to do more video blogging than regular blogging. But I guess it’s all good. People can use the categories feature of this blog to filter the vlogs - just look for the Shavonne TV in my side bar under “categories”. Issue solved.

I finally watched the Will Smith movie The Pursuit of Happyness. I really loved this movie. It wasn’t what I thought it would be given some of the undertones. For some reason, seeing tv clips of President Reagan made me think it would somehow be a bashing of the GOP but it wasn’t at all. Republicans swear by an hard-work ethic, anti-government regulation, and Christian values and this movie exemplified those values. Sort of. I’m just glad the main character was able to recognize that much of his hardship was the result of bad decision making and not the color of his skin. He persevered and came out on top. This movie is based on a true story by the way, so if this black man can make it, anybody can. I wonder if Chris Gardner is Republican.

I had an interesting conversation with some Navy buddies of mine. I was asked if I had had intercourse or wanted to since I’ve been in Afghanistan. Well, if you aren’t familiar with my blog, I’m proud to announce that I’ve been celibate for over two years! He was a little shocked by this. He asked me why and I told him, “I can get everything I need from a man without sleeping with him.” And it’s true, too.

He asked me to elaborate on what I meant. I did and I told him “What I need is intimacy: deep conversation, hugs, holding hands, eskimo kisses, a good laugh, comfort, etc and I get that already. Besides, when the time comes and he can’t give me these simple things then there’s no way I can get in the mood for sex.”

He asked me another question. He said I don’t seem like I’m into dating black men. I told him that in California, black men don’t notice me. He said, “Well that’s funny because when I first saw you, you didn’t come off as the type of black woman that would be interested in black men.”

I thought that was funny. When I’m interested in a guy, I let my feelings be known. There is never any misunderstandings there. Now, I don’t have much of an interest in dating black men, but in the past I was definitely all for them. So what is my preference? I prefer any man with the same interests and values as me, i.e, commitment to each other and to raising a family.

I’m looking forward to leaving Afghanistan, but I’m not looking forward to hitchhiking across the globe like I did to get here.

Everyone keeps asking me why I’m 22ish and don’t have any kids. Well, I refuse to bring a child into the world without a devoted and caring husband. White folks get it, blacks folks don’t. Nuff said about this subject.

Speaking of hair, a male friend commented negatively on another black female’s hair. I had to come to her defense. I told him it probably takes her hours to do her hair. It’s hard to take hair and style it in ways it just isn’t meant to be. I continued to mention how many hours I spent on my hair just to get it in a stupid bun - 2+ hours! I mentioned how I want to cut my hair super short, like Nia Long or Halle before she grew her hair long. He asked me why and I told him, “One day I will approach 30ish and I don’t want to gain a bunch of weight. The older you get the harder it is to ward off the fat. I plan on working out everyday to stay fit and I don’t want to be bothered with long hair anymore. If a man wants a woman with long hair, he should get himself a white girl.”

I will be posting another vlog soon. Hopefully within the next week. Stay tuned.

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